We spent the weekend in Waiheke Island and it was nothing short of beautiful. I didn’t think I would like it that much initially but that was definitely one of my favorite days in Auckland so far. I took a 9.5 hour plane ride last Tuesday from Singapore to Auckland (New Zealand) to visit Jin and I’m here to stay for 3 weeks. He has work in the day so I’m just using this time to reset myself, and do up some work.
So, many of you seem very curious about our relationship so here’s a FAQs since I’ve some free time on hand (:
- Is he a korean/kiwi and does he speak fluent English?
He’s full korean and yes he can speak fluent English cos he lived and studied overseas.
- How old is he?
He’s 29 this year
- How tall are the both of you?
He’s 182cm and I’m 168cm, and we both think our heights fit perfectly :p
- He’s so sweet, he’s always cooking for you!!! Can he cook well?
YES YES YES YES YES YES YES. He makes the best pasta and I love it when he makes me korean food – toppoki!!!
- Does he live in Korea?
Nope, he lives in New Zealand now.
- Why is he always so emotionless on your Instagram Stories?
“I’m a man of many expressions, they just don’t get to see it” quote Jin. He’s just very shy and awkward in front of camera. He asked me if he’s suppose to smile or what haha.
- Is maintaining a long distance relationship difficult?
Well, on my part I wouldn’t say it’s very difficult. Sure, sometimes I wish he was with me to celebrate some moments or a shoulder for me to lean on in tough times. But I think generally we are very independent people and having whatsapp and facetime make things a lot easier. We talk every day and send loads of pictures to each other just to update each other about our lives. Sometimes, he stays on the phone with me while I fall asleep so I feel like I’m sleeping next to him. We are both primarily at the stage of building our careers so some space apart helps to let us grow in different ways together. Although it’s a little expensive to maintain a LDR (air tickets, overseas expenses etc) but we only see each other every 2-3 months so if we spread out the costs, it’s probably the same or even lesser than a regular relationship. Besides, it’s fun that we get to travel to see each other. It’s like going on a holiday! We have only been seeing each other for 5+ months but we have already experienced 4 countries together 😀 Also, it’s interesting to learn about each other’s cultures. I’ve always had a keen interest in Korean politics (particularly North) and I love getting insights from him. So…LDR difficult? Nah not really for now.
- Will you move to live with him?
We’ve briefly talked about this but nope, not at the moment or near future.
- Can you speak Korean then?
I’m learning from him and kdramas hone my skills so I can speak just a little bit now.
- How did you guys meet?
Here’s the question everyone’s curious about! I shall just answer it here once and for all.
We met on.........Tinder.
BUT our story is a little different so let me bring you through hahah.
One fine day, my mum was asking me why wasn’t I dating anyone for such a long time and she was getting a little worried. I told her that I just didn’t have time to be in a relationship and I haven’t met anyone I really like. I kinda do have a type which is tall asian guys who are more westernized (so like studied/lived abroad but can’t be douchy or spoilt at the same time. TOUGH RIGHT?) So I thought ok fine, I’ll go on Tinder. So I saw Jin’s profile and went like hmm not bad, tall quite handsome dress quite nicely and he doesn’t seem like a Singaporean which is good cos that means he probably doesn’t follow me on IG or know who I am at all. After all, I wanted to talk to someone who knows me for ME and not the Instagram girl. At that time, he was in Singapore to visit his brother hence we were able to match on Tinder. But honestly, we didn’t think much of this “match”. We barely texted each other initially and we didn’t meet up and suddenly he told me he was back in Korea for 3 weeks to finish up a project. For some odd reason, we started texting more, almost every night after he left Singapore. And it went on for 2 months. And he still hasn’t came back to Singapore. He did ask me for my Instagram handle, but I just came up with some random excuse that I hardly use IG so no point following. The only thing he knew about me was my first name. Not even my last name so he couldn’t google shit up. I really just wanted him to talk to me without knowing other “unnecessary” stuff about me and so he did. I’d send him bare face pictures but he didn’t stop talking to me. We continued talking every day, sending random photos, created a joint Spotify playlist to share songs we love, drunk called each other at 3am to talk about life, work, family and such. Sometimes, he would run out of his house and talk to me at his rooftop at 3am in 0 degree. And inexplicably, we started getting attracted to each other despite having not met each other before. It felt special, yet weird at the same time? I remember asking my close friends if there was something wrong with me for feeling this way for a guy I’ve never even met before. From “what are you doing”s, it became “wish you were here”s and “it’s weird that we feel this way about each other”s but somehow we couldn’t shake it off. In the end, he couldn’t come back to Singapore cos he had to relocate elsewhere (he was deciding between NZ and Japan at that time) and we both felt like it would be a waste to just let it slip just because of distance. How special and rare was it that our feelings were mutual under such a circumstance. So we took a leap of faith to meet in Seoul and agreed that if we don’t feel the same, we will just take it that we gained a new friend and he was just gonna be my tour guide in Seoul. I was so scared on the plane to Korea. I was scared to death actually. What if he was a creepy guy, what if he turned out to be completely different, what if he was a rapist or a human trafficker. Yet on the other hand, there was something reassuring in the guy I had been talking to for the past 2 months and it must really have been something solid for me to be willing to take the leap of faith. And so it did…he was everything I thought he’d be, if not even better. He was caring, sweet, understanding, good-looking, tall, humorous, weird in just the way I like. And we fell in love almost immediately in Seoul. I fell for his weird antics, his genuine heart, the way he makes me feel when I’m with him and he fell for me ; the me that he doesn’t care about on Instagram, the me without make up and fancy clothes, the me who had accidentally let out a burp on our 3rd day, the geeky me who can’t stop talking about North Korea politics while all he cared about was art and design, museum and galleries, and also the me who loved to do embarrassing things to him in public. So that was how we met, and we still thank God every day for this even though we met on the most unexpected and unassuming platform.