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April 2013

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Know me more!

April 10, 2013

01: Your current relationship, if single discuss how single life is.

It’s been about 2 months since I’m single. It definitely is a fresh breath of air. I like the space I have, the time I have to focus on other important things. 

02: Where you’d like to be in 10 years.

32 years old, I better have a pretty damn good career and a loving husband by then. I want to be a happy, successful and content woman then.

03: Your views on drugs and alcohol.

Drugs – Nay ay never in the right mind will I touch them
Alcohol – makes me a Claire

04: Your views on religion.

I don’t like the word religion, I prefer to call it a relationship, with God. People should place more emphasis on their relationship with God than the routinized church-going (it’s important but loving God should come before loving church itself).

05: A time you thought about ending your own life.

When I was 11 cos I thought life sucked. WHAT WAS I THINKING DUDE?

06: Write 30 interesting facts about yourself.

I loved lizards. I’m not scared of any insects. I’m trypophobic. My right eye is smaller than my left eye. I have very white finger nails. I become a different person(Claire we call it) when I’m 1)inebriated 2)when I’m sleepy 3)when I just woke up. I eat sweets everyday, I live on them. I love being alone. I can’t and don’t cry in front of friends no matter how sad I am. I like smart/charismatic guys. I love surprises. Can’t think anymore.

07: Your zodiac sign and if you think it fits your personality.

Cancer. Yup it does!

08: A moment you felt the most satisfied with your life.

Can 2012 be a moment? It was perfect. I had TJM in place, I was traveling a lot and I had D in my life.

09: How you hope your future will be like.

Refer to question 2….

10: Discuss your first love and first kiss.

I can’t remember my first. Last was beautiful.

11: Put your ipod on shuffle and write 10 songs that pop up.

Lazy

12: Bullet your whole day.

  • eat
  • study
  • eat
  • eat
  • eat

13: Somewhere you’d like to move or visit.

New york, Norway, UK, other parts of Japan, Boracay, North Korea, South Africa, Maldives

14: Your earliest memory.

My 2nd birthday!

15: Your favorite tumblrs.

Mine. Cos I don’t remember others hahah

16: Your views on mainstream music.

Mainstream lor. Gets on my nerves after awhile.

17: Your highs and lows of this past year.

Lows – break up, school’s a bore, no time for tjm
Highs – sofie’s birthday at bangkok. 

18: Your beliefs.

You shape your own destiny. Don’t let others define who you are. Don’t be a snob just cos you have a bit of glory.

19: Disrespecting your parents.

Bad. Shouldn’t do that.

20: How important you think education is.

Education itself is important cos it enriches you and sort of moulds the person in you. Emphasis should be placed on gaining knowledge that’s vital to life and not just on the cert.

21: One of your favorite shows.

For now it got to be 2 broke girls. Makes me laugh a lot!

22: How have you changed in the past 2 years?

I’ve become less gullible, less trusting, more independent, and much stronger.

23: Give pictures of 5 guys who are famous who you find attractive.

James Franco, Daniel Wu, Hugh Jackman, Christian Bale, Chris Evans.

24: Your favorite movie and what it’s about.

I like Les Miserables this year.

25: Someone who fascinates you and why.

Can I not say who?

26: What kind of person attracts you.

Smart, talented, truthful, charismatic, driven, loyal, supportive.

27: A problem that you have had.

Why must school only end in a year? :'(

28: Something that you miss.

Freedom and time

29: Goals for the next 30 days.

Pass my exam, travel, buck up for TJM, start exercising, watch more movies, spend more quality time with my friends.

30: Your highs and lows of this month.

This month’s boring.

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Imperfections make perfection // “Stop instagramming your perfect life”

April 7, 2013

“I keep having the same conversation over and over. It starts like this: “I
gave up Facebook for Lent, and I realized I’m a lot happier without it.” Or
like this, “Pinterest makes me hate my house.” Or like this: “I stopped
following a friend on Instagram, and now that I don’t see nonstop snapshots of
her perfect life, I like her better.”
Yikes. This is a thing. This is coming up in conversation after
conversation. The danger of the internet is that it’s very very easy to tell
partial truths—to show the fabulous meal but not the mess to clean up
afterward. To display the smiling couple-shot, but not the fight you had three
days ago. To offer up the sparkly milestones but not the spiraling meltdowns.
I’m not anti-technology or anti-Internet, certainly, but I do think it’s
important for us to remind ourselves from time to time that watching other
peoples’ post-worthy moments on Facebook is always going to yield a prettier
version of life than the one you’re living right now. That’s how it works.
My life looks better on the Internet than it does
in real life. Everyone’s life looks better on the internet than it does in real
life. The Internet is partial truths—we get to decide what people see and what
they don’t. That’s why it’s safer short term. And that’s why it’s much, much
more dangerous long term.
Because community—the rich kind, the transforming kind, the valuable and
difficult kind—doesn’t happen in partial truths and well-edited photo
collections on Instagram. Community happens when we hear each other’s actual
voices, when we enter one another’s actual homes, with actual messes, around
actual tables telling stories that ramble on beyond 140 pithy characters.
But seeing the best possible, often-unrealistic, half-truth version of
other peoples’ lives isn’t the only danger of the Internet. Our envy buttons
also get pushed because we rarely check Facebook when we’re having our own peak
experiences. We check it when we’re bored and when we’re lonely, and it
intensifies that boredom and loneliness.
When you’re laughing at a meal with friends, are you scrolling through Pinterest?
When you’re in labor with your much-prayed-for-deeply-loved child, are you
checking to see what’s happening on Instagram? Of course not. We check in with
our phones when it seems like nothing fun is happening in our own lives—when
we’re getting our oil changed or waiting for the coffee to brew.
It makes sense, then, that anyone else’s fun or beauty or sparkle gets
under our skin. It magnifies our own dissatisfaction with that moment. When
you’re waiting for your coffee to brew, the majority of your friends probably
aren’t doing anything any more special.
But it only takes one friend at the Eiffel Tower to make you feel like a
loser.
I’m a writer. I use Twitter and Facebook and Instagram and Pinterest and
my blog as part of my professional life—as a way to connect with readers and be
part of a conversation that we’re creating together, a conversation about
creativity and faith and writing and parenting and community and life around
the table. It’s a lovely conversation, and part of my work involves reading
many blogs and commenting on lots of photos and scrolling through status after
status.
Some days it feels rich and multi-faceted. I learn and I’m inspired. I
find recipes I want to try and stories I want to live. I feel connected and
thankful to be part of such an intelligent and creative internet community.
And then on some days, I feel like I have nothing to offer, like I must
be the only one who isn’t a graphic designer and hasn’t yet managed to display
her entire darling life online with lots of chevron and mint accents. I feel so
certain that my life is a lot less darling than other peoples’ lives.
But that’s the Internet. The nature of it. I so easily fall prey to the
seduction of other people’s partial truths and heavily filtered photos, making
everything look amazing. And their amazing looking lives make me feel not
amazing at all.
Let’s choose community. Let’s stop comparing. Let’s start connecting.
Some days when I sit down at my laptop, instead of choosing to be an
observer via Facebook, I choose to be a friend via email. Instead of scrolling
through someone else’s carefully curated images, I use those few seconds to
send a text to a person I really know and really love and really want to be
connected to.
It’s not about technology or not. I’m not suggesting you get all
old-school-pen-and-paper about it (unless that’s your thing.) It’s about
connecting instead of comparing. Instead of using the computer to watch someone
else’s perfectly crafted life, enter into someone’s less-than-perfect life. You
can use Facebook if you want, but you might find email, Skype and phone calls
work better.
The distinction I’m making is public vs. private,
not in person vs. long distance. I have very close, very honest friendships
that depend on phone calls and Skype dates and long wandering emails, and I’m
thankful that technology allows for those connections. But I don’t think you can
build transforming friendships that take place only in a public sphere like
Facebook or Instagram.
For many of us, walking away from the Internet isn’t an option. But
using it to connect instead of compare is an option, and a life-changing one.
Using technology to build community instead of building carefully-curated
images of ourselves is an option, and a worthwhile one.
And on the days when you peer into the screen of your laptop and all you
see are other people’s peak experiences that highlight your lack in that
moment, remember that life isn’t about the story you tell about yourself on the
Internet. It’s about a million more beautiful and complex things than that,
like love and faith and really listening. It’s about using what you’ve been
given to craft a life of gratitude and passion and grace.
Remember that the very best things in life can’t be captured in status
updates.”
By
Shauna Niequist